A continuation of our series: Blunders To Steer Clear Of After Getting Engaged
Mistake #3 – Leaving Your Groom Out of the Planning Process
Get Your Groom Involved in the Wedding Planning
The days of solo wedding planning are behind us. Not only are mothers and daughters concerned with the wedding plans but so are many of modern-day grooms. Don’t assume he doesn’t want to help. Get him involved. Don’t leave him out. After all, it’s important for both of you to feel connected to this process.
If you’re one of the fortunate brides whose groom wants to be involved in every decision then consider yourself lucky. Give him his list and treat yourself to a day at the spa.
If you’d like more input then consider these tips.
Let Him Choose
Right at the very start of the planning stages, find out which parts of the planning he wants to be in charge of. This will allow him to choose what interests him (like finding the right DJ over selecting wedding favors).
Narrow Down His Choices
Yes, I’ll say it. Men have short attention spans. Once you’ve narrowed it down give him a short list of options for each stage of the planning process. Get his opinion from these lists. Keep your wedding planning conversations with him brief. An hour of debating lavender and gray or hot pink and teal will have his eyes glazing over.
His Ideas Count
You wanted him involved, so be prepared when he gives you an honest opinion. Let him know his suggestions matter and are important to you. Marriage requires compromise. Be willing to listen and don’t reject his opinions.
Let him take on some of the vendors. Let him choose the ones that appeal to him. He may be interested in finding the right DJ, even setting up wedding day transportation. Ask him to work out the prices with vendors, and see what kinds of “extras” he can manage to get included in your packages.
Your guy probably already has a plan for your honeymoon. Almost all grooms are eager to have a direct say in this part of the wedding planning. So, make a few suggestions but let him come up with options for that too.
Make it easy for him to participate. In wedding planning, no task is unimportant. Keep things organized in a way both of you can easily make decisions.
You never know, maybe he’ll even blow your socks off by throwing you a few wedding planning tips.