We were married 14 years ago today.
We thought we knew what we were signing on for. We had a plan. If we would just stick to it we figured we couldn’t go wrong. But really, we had no idea what we were getting ourselves into. What a surprise it was, once we got married, to find out that we were in over our heads. We thought we were in agreement on money and family issues. Together we have been through lots of mountain highs and plenty of valley lows.
But life doesn’t always work out exactly as you plan. Sometimes it turns out better than what you could have imagined. Through all the changes and lost dreams new ones take their place. And a partnership emerges that isn’t based on some pre-scripted end state but a winding journey that twists, turns and entangles us until we’re one couple that’s stronger than either of us would be on our own.
Money can’t buy this. Material things can’t replace this. Fame or popularity is empty compared to this. Having a happy, fulfilled, blessed marriage, and family, is the most wonderful thing in the world.
For those of you who were there with us (or in the same town but slept through it) on May 23, 1998, and who have been a part of these past fourteen years, I thank you. For those of you who are newly married or facing tough times, keep working at it until it’s right. It can get better. For all of you, near or far, who have trusted me with your friendship, and who have believed and supported me through the years, I thank you. My life is richer because you’re in it.
So, as I sit here in Maui looking out at this astonishing view, I am delighting in the joy of my marriage. I am enjoying the fullness of now. I’m not waiting to live. I am not hoping to live. I am not planning to live. I am fully alive, Right Now. Alive with love, filled with gratitude, and overwhelmed by God’s goodness and favor.
Happy Anniversary to my husband! I can’t wait to see what the next years will bring.
“When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.”
~ Harry (Billy Crystal) to Sally (Meg Ryan),
When Harry Met Sally
Today is our first in a series. We’ll be talking about avoiding some common mistakes newly engaged couples tend to make.
If you’ve recently gotten engaged, congratulations! As you’re fresh off of your big engagement news and made the choice to get married, it’s fairly certain that you’ll be fired up and psyched about the actual marriage proposal. After all, it’s an occasion that you both will remember (and re-tell your story of getting engaged) for the rest of your lives — as well as one that you’ve probably been fantasizing about since you watched your first Disney princess movie. You know you’ve looked forward to your wedding day since you were a little girl playing dress-up and practicing your walk down the aisle. In a nutshell: You’ll be deliriously happy, purely for the proposal itself, but don’t let your nerves lead you to make one of these all-too-common marriage proposal mistakes. Loosen-up and chill out. Take a moment to relish in this wonderful time in your lives. Relax and read about some common mistakes recently engaged couples make so that you can avoid them as you plan for your perfect wedding. Doing so will help you limit your tension, irritation and frustration as you prepare for your own special day.
Mistake number one: Wedding Guest Drama
Now, you really don’t want to start off inviting everybody you know to your big event. As soon as you do, you really have no way to tactfully un-invite them. You also must be aware of how many people your groom and his family will want to invite for their side of the guest list. Unless you are made of money you will most likely not be inviting everyone you, your fiancé, your parents and your fiancé’s parents have ever known or ever will know to your wedding. You may not have any real concrete plans or thoughts to what your wedding style or budget are just yet, or how considerable the expenses could be. You might be thinking that your wedding should be a big bash that the whole town will want to attend but your “honey” may have a different idea of what the wedding should be. While you may have dreams of a “Rock Star” (i.e. mega bucks) style wedding, he may have more of an intimate(i.e. less costly) wedding. Your budget will help to shape up your guest list and determine the number of invited wedding guests and sad to say, you are bound to let down someone. Do your very best to invite those closest to you and your fiancé. Parents, as a courtesy should have a say too, most definitely if they are helping to pay for the wedding. Be willing to work it out and make a deal but know that it is YOUR wedding So, keep away from making any promises. Just until you both agree on a wedding and reception spending plan. You will be grateful you did!
Next week we’ll be back and talk about avoiding WEDDING OVERLOAD – taking on too much, too fast.
Many young girls look forward to weddings from the moment they start watching Disney princess movies. In many cases, they picture their weddings as extravagant affairs, complete with Prince Charming, elegant dining, gowns galore for the wedding party and, if they dare to dream big, happy, supportive family members. Then, they get older and they are exposed to the world of celebrity weddings. Now they are dreaming of huge guest lists, imported flowers, famous chefs, million dollar rings and more.
This wide sweeping expectation for extravagant weddings is on the top of every bride’s list. It is also completely unrealistic. Even celebrity weddings Continue reading “Are Celebrity Weddings Giving People Unrealistic Expectations of What a Wedding Should Be?”
The History of Wedding Invitations – Announcing the Big Day through the Ages
Just about everyone can relate to this.
You’re going through the mail, stacking the bills on one side and the junk mail on the other side when all of the sudden you come across your name delicately scrawled in perfect handwriting across a soft pink or blue envelope.
Thinking that it could be a letter from your Great Aunt May, and hoping desperately that this isn’t just a ploy by a collection company to make you feel bright and cheery before dropping a lawsuit in your lap, you open the envelope very carefully. Continue reading “History of Wedding Invitations”